Don’t just show love … say the words

These words are a necessary ingredient in a healthy, balanced relationship of any nature. Unfortunately, these words have been cheapened by a society that has confused love with so many other things that are as far from love’s nature as east is from west. Yet the words “I love you” still capture the essence of any genuine relationship. Simple as they are, these words affirm, bring security and warmth. 

Some argue, “I’m just not the type to say ‘I love you,’ I just show it in other ways.” Though it is certainly important to show love, it may be equally vital to accompany loving deeds with words. 

No matter how hard the outer shell of a person’s personality, there is something about the words “I love you” that can penetrate the most calloused, protective emotional armor. 

Come out of yourself and give yourself to others in love. We all are hungry for it. To be loved, to be shown love and to be told we are loved moves mountains that often eclipse communication in any relationship. 

Let not the words “I love you” be scarcely uttered, and you will find that these three words may open the door for even better deeds. Don’t be afraid to use the three words that God says with the sacrifice of his son. 

Our Father repeatedly expresses his love for us in countless ways — in spite of the fact they we are not lovable on our own. As Paul says in his letter to the Romans, “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Since God never hesitates to express his love for us, what is holding you back? I challenge you to tell someone today that you love them. They will be blessed, and so will you.

J.K. HAMILTON is minister for the Church of Christ at Mountain View in Dallas. He blogs at jkhamilton.org.